Next week will be a year since the best thing in life happened to me; I got laid off. I know what you might be thinking. In this economy, who in their responsible mind would think this is anything remotely close to a good thing. Prepare for a run-on sentence. I’ve been working since I was 15, moved out of my house at 17, attended the last college I hoped for, played soccer in exchange for a degree that I settled for since I was on my own and they didn’t offer what I wanted until I was a senior, took classes every winter and summer semester, never traveled until I was heartbroken, found myself only waking up for work daily because of my nice paycheck, and realized last NYE that I was already 25 and my life wasn’t nearly where I had planned it would be; I didn’t love my job, I didn’t feel ready to buy a house on my own, I didn’t love my job, I wanted to go back to school, I didn’t love my job, I felt like I was turning into this negative person I left behind a long time ago, and I didn’t love my job.
One day after work the breaks on my car failed and I lost the car I bought myself at 18. The next morning I went on a mission to get to work. I had to walk a mile and a half to the train station, took a 2 hour train ride, and then walked another mile to work. This, was the morning I got laid off. After I walked out of the conference room full of assurance that I had not failed at my job but instead the company was just failing, I felt like I was … free. I could finally go back to school or figure out what I wanted to do in life, legally oversleep, run for fun, play for fun, I could finally find myself on my own time. Then, of course, I freaked out – my bills, my dog, my lifestyle I accustomed myself to, how was I gonna live? Thank You Unemployment!
My paycheck wasn’t as nice as I got used to but it covered the necessary and I traded shopping for a little more schooling. I enrolled at Parsons and took a couple fashion and digital design courses to reassure myself that I still wanted to be a designer but not for a civil engineering firm. I spent the year spending A LOT of time with my family, getting to know my friends better, reading books I never finished, drank coffee for pleasure, observed and questioned everything, and built a beautiful relationship with a former lover that is unbreakable. By Christmas 2013 I figured out that not only do I need to work in the fashion or interior design industry, I want to go back to school to study human rights, will finally train for a marathon, and learned that you can know someone for a decade and not know them at all.
So here I am ready to work again in an industry I only dream about being in. Where do I go with zero experience and no connections? Do I really have to be an intern in my mid-twenties? Applications get discouraging especially when you have to submit resume & cover letter AND fill out pages of work experience you already spent hours organizing on Word >:-[. You also run across those years of experience that are required to simply be considered and then after deciding you’re going to try it anyway you get lead to a site that requires you to pay to get “full” advantages on job searches. I know, WTF. This is all a process and have been at points where I’m afraid to search for opportunities so, I’m going to share a couple tips that will hopefully help with finding a job and keeping your hope.
- Be patient with yourself
- There are over 7 billion people in the world YOU ARE NOT ALONE
- If your friends are succeeding you sure as hell can too
- TRY to fill out applications for one hour 5x per week – ONE HOUR
- Immediately after your daily hour (^) Spoil yourself!
- Go to every interview
- Network everywhere, you never know
- Don’t settle for any job
- Your life is for you to live not regret
- Don’t spend too much time “liking” other’s lives without loving yours
- You can’t change by remaining the same
- Now that you have extra time Volunteer!
- Good Karma & Bad Karma are real
Sometimes the pressure and stress about finding a job now whether it be from your family and peers or because your unemployment extension has been cut off can lead to negativity and unhealthy habits; fight it. Taking care of yourself is most important. Always keep in mind that even if you find the perfect job, your success depends on your performance. For those that have families, they are depending on you.
Remember: All 7 billion of us in this world have the same 1440 minutes daily